Showing posts with label Sisters Talk. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sisters Talk. Show all posts

Thursday, October 5, 2017

Finding Your Balance

Part 1: Lose the Wobble
Have you tried standing on one leg? Do you wobble back and forth? Balance exercises should be a part of your regular routine but what about Finding Balance in Your Life?


Do you wobble between activities, leaning towards one then another, maybe even falling down i.e. completely neglecting one area altogether?


It happens to me! Very recently, I received a gentle reminder that my balance was askew. So I thought about it. Why? How could I “practice” so that the wobbling would be reduced. For the physical, the answer is simple, just add in more balance exercises. But what about life?


The first thought should be “What are your activities?  List them. Then rewrite them according to priority. Now you have a framework or let's say a ladder. (Do you want to lose your balance on a ladder?) No, of course not, even a little wobble is scary.


Let's use this ladder of activities to keep your life in balance. Whenever you go to do something, ask yourself, Where is it on my ladder? If there are things above it, you may be wobbling. Try to the activity above and in sha Allah, systematically work from the top down and in sha Allah, you will have a safe landing.


Part 2: The 30 Minute Rule

Continuing the thoughts on Losing Your Wobble, once you have your ladder set up and you have set your priorities. An important step to do next involves time. When I get out of balance, most likely I spend way too much time in one area at the expense of many others. So I came up with the 30-minute rule.


I break my day into 30-minute slots. Mentally this is a real organizing boost as you are planning what to do next and next and next. Sure you can have 2 or 3 slots of the same thing but ideally taking a small break between slots of the same activity will help with focus and productivity.


This rule can be tweaked to suit your individual circumstances.


Could be 30,10 30,10 or a variation.


For me, 30 min slots are best with slight alterations for “watching a game”, “shopping”, Halaqas” etc. In those cases, mentally recognize the passage of each half hour.


Will this rule work for you? Maybe. Make Dua, adjust to fit your day and Believe it can work!

Thursday, April 6, 2017

مفيدة جدا..



( نصائح من د. إبراهيم الفقي) رحمه الله
1 - نام كويس جداً
2 - اظبط المنبه و قوم صلى الفجر و ردد أذكار الصباح
3 - أول حد تشوفوه من عيلتك قوله كلمة حلوة تخليه يبتسم
4 - كوباية قهوة مع شوكولاتة بتحبها
5 . متستناش حاجة من أى حد
6 . بلاش تركز مع أى حاجة ممكن تضايقك " كبر دماغك "
7 . افتح موبايك و اكتب " Nice Day "
8. استغفر 1000 مرة
9. لو أى حد محتاج منك مساعدة ساعده حتى لو متعرفوش
10 . البس أكتر حاجة بتحبها فـ لبسك و أنت خارج
11. اتفرج على فيديو بيضحكك
12. اتصل بحد مكلمتوش من زمان و قولوه " وحشتنى " ^^
13. اتفرج على صورك و أنت صغير
14. حاول تنجز أى حاجة فـ يومك مهما كانت تافهه
15. حافظ على الصلوات الخمسة فـ مواعدها بالظبط
16. ازرع وردة فـ بلكونة أوضتك
17. حب نفسك و قول لنفسك " أنا بحبنى "
18. اسمع قرآن نص ساعة
19. امسك ورقة و قلم و ارسم أى حاجة حتى لو شخبطة " خرج احساسك"
20. أى حد تعرفه روح سلم عليه و ابتسم أول ما تشوفوه
21. خليك هادى و مرن و متفائل
22. اشترى كتاب حتى لو مبتحبش القراءة و اقرأ فيه لو صفحة
23. داوم على ذِكر الله طول اليوم
24. تصدق " أى مبلغ ، بسمة على وش طفل ، اتبرع بالدم "
25. متفكرش فـ أى حاجة بتزعلك ، انسى كل حاجة ^^
26. لو حد زعلان منك كلمه و قولوه أنا أسف " و الكاظمين الغيظ و العافيين عن الناس "
27. لو حد مزعلك سامحه من قلبك
28. حمام دافى
29. ركعتين قيام و وتر " اوتر "
30. متنساش الناس من دعائك و لك المثل
31. وردَك من القرآن اقرأه فـ أى وقت بس اوعى تنساه " 10 آيات على الأقل"
32. متنساش تتوضى قبل ما تنام و تقول أذكار النوم
33. قبل ما تنام راجع يومك تانى و لو محستش بتغيير حاول تانى
34. متنساش تظبط المنبه لصلاة الفجر
35.ابدأ يوم جديدمفيدة جدا....

Thursday, March 16, 2017

The Story of Prophet Yusuf…


The story of Prophet Yusuf (as) was revealed to our beloved Prophet Muhammad (saw); this came at a time when the Muslims were facing great persecution in Makkah and the Prophet had suffered two major losses: the death of his first wife and strongest supporter, Kadijah (ra) and another of his strongest supporters, his uncle, Abu Talib.

This story is one of attraction that arouses interest as it deals with deception, jealousy, pride and passion.

Stories in the Qur’an are usually told over several chapters; however, the story of Yusuf is unique. It was revealed in one chapter from beginning to end and is the only place in the Qur’an where this story is mentioned.

This story is of the best narrations, Allah tells us in the Qur’an in the third ayah of Surah Yusuf,

“We relate to you, O Muhammad, the best of stories in what We have revealed to you of this Qur’an although you were, before it, among the unaware.”

As we move through the years of Yusuf (as) life in his story we learn of the ups and downs he faced from childhood to adulthood.

The story of Yusuf begins with a dream and ends with its interpretation.

Yusuf told his father, Ya’qub, he dreamt he saw the moon, the sun and eleven stars prostrating to him, as a means of humbling themselves to him.

“[Of these stories mention] when Joseph said to his father, “o my father, indeed I have seen [in a dream] eleven stars and the sun and the moon; I saw them prostrating to me.” (S. Yususf, ayah 4)

“He said, “O my son, do not relate your vision to your brothers or they will contrive against you a plan. Indeed Satan, to man, is a manifest enemy.”
(S. Yusuf, ayah 5)

Ya’qub tells his son, Yusuf, not to disclose his dream to his brothers because his brothers were jealous of him; they believed their father loved Yusuf more than them. Because Ya’qub was a prophet himself he had special insight and knew his other sons would inspire against Yusuf if they knew that Yusuf had special qualities.
The jealousy of Yusuf’s brothers drove them to throwing Yusuf into the bottom of a well and leaving him there then returning to their father, Ya’qub, with a lie that a wolf had killed and eaten Yusuf.

The essence of this Surah is sabr, patience, in the face of adversity.
Known Islamic scholar, Ibnul Qayyim, told us that sabr means, having the ability to stop ourselves from despairing, to refrain from complaining, and to control ourselves in times of sadness and worry.

Many lessons have been derived from Surah Yusuf, Ibnul Qayyim, was able to derive 1,000 from this story alone.

We have chosen 2 lessons that we derived from the beautiful narrative of Yusuf (as):

Sabrun Jameel & Tawakkul
SABRUN JAMEEL
One of the lessons we learn from the story of surah Yusuf is patience, specifically beautiful patience. In ayah 18 of surah Yusuf we learn,
"And they brought upon his shirt false blood. [Jacob] said, "Rather, your souls have enticed you to something, so patience is most fitting. And Allah is the one sought for help against that which you describe."
Sabr itself means self-control and literally it means: hasbun nafs, which is restraining ones self.
We are restraining ourselves from displaying a negative reaction at the first strike of a calamity, from complaining, wrong desires and saying the wrong words at time of anger and distress.
The next part of patience that we are looking at is the beautiful aspect of it, and to further understand this, we will again look at the words grammatical form.
Jameel means, beauty
Jameel when used for an action means, “ajmala fil aml” which is, to do something in the best possible way. Therefore, to do that action in the highest of standards. This is the patience in which there are no complaints. Sometimes we exhibit patience in a situation but we complain about it to people.
Ya’qub (as) accepted the situation entirely without complaining. He does not yell, argue or rebuke his sons. Rather he realizes this my test, so sabrun jameel; patience is most fitting. He then turns to Allah swt for help. Which brings us to our next lesson.
Tawakkul (the reliance upon Allah):
This turning to Allah for help is tawakkul. Tawakkul is the dependence with the heart upon Allah, for bringing what is of benefit and repelling what is harmful.
When you want something for yourself, something good: wealth, children, status, as long as you rely upon yourself you will feel anxious, will I have it? But when you rely upon Allah, and say to yourself, I will do my best and He will facilitate and provide for me, you are able to take the risks necessary to attain what it is you want or need to face.
Tawakkul allows you to do good, sacrifice and keep away from sin.
In Surah Yusuf, ayah 86, Ya’qub (as) gives us a great example of tawakkul,
He said, "I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah, and I know from Allah that which you do not know. (Yusuf 12:86). 
After years and years of Ya’qub not seeing or hearing anything of Yusuf he never gave up hope in Allah that they would reunite, that his duas would be answered and so Ya’qub instructed his sons to go out and search for Yusuf. As we learn in ayah 87,
“O my sons, go and find out about Joseph and his brother and despair not of relief from Allah. Indeed no one despairs of relief from Allah except the disbelieving people.”
After so many years had passed Allah answered the dua of Ya’qub (as) and reunited him with Yusuf.
Yusuf was finally reunited with his father and mother and brothers that put him into the well, upon the reunion Yusuf’s father, mother and brothers humbly prostrated to him, thus the meaning of the interpretation of the dream becomes known:
“And when they entered upon Joseph, he took his parents to himself [i.e., embraced them] and said, “Enter Egypt, Allah willing, safe [and secure].”
(S. Yusuf ayah 99)
“And he raised his parents upon the throne, and they bowed to him in prostration. And he said, “O my father, this is the explanation of my vision of before. My Lord has made it a reality. And He was certainly good to me when He took me out of prison and brought you [here] from Bedouin life after Satan had induced [estrangement] between me and my brothers. Indeed, my Lord is subtle in what He wills. Indeed, it is He who is the Knowing, the Wise.”
(S. Yusuf ayah 100)
So be patient with a beautiful patience:
Now relate this to our lives; sometimes we lose control of our children, instead of blaming ourselves or going into depression, turn to Allah for help, have sabr & tawakkul and at least your reward is secured with Allah.  
The Messenger of Allah (saw) said, "How wonderful is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this applies only to a believer. If prosperity reaches him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him". (Muslim)

Presented by Sr. Mariyan, Sr. Sofia & Sr. Tamara
Students from Al Huda TQE7

Thursday, February 16, 2017

Sister Sara’s Quiz

Compliled by: Muhammad Sulaiman Salman Mansurpuri



To see the answers, highlight the empty space after the letter {a.}


  1. What is the Prophets (saaw) full name?
    1. Muhammad Ibn Abdullah Ibn Abd al-Muttalib Ibn Hashim Ibn Abd Manaf
Pg. 13
  1. How old was Prophet (saaw) when his mother passed away?
    1. 6 years old. His grandfather Abd al-Muttalib cared for him afterwards.
Pg. 14
  1. What was her name?
    1. Aaminah
Pg. 14
  1. How old was he (saaw) when he married Khadija?
    1. 25 years old
Pg. 14
  1. How old was the Prophet (saaw) when he received his first revelation?
    1. 40 years old
Pg. 14
  1. Who was first to leave to Habashah?
    1. Uthman ibn Afan. It was during the 5th year of the Prophethood. There were 5 women and 12 men.
Pg. 17
  1. How old was the Prophet (saaw) when he went on Maraj?
    1. He was 51 years and 5 months old. He travelled with Jibreel from Mecca to Kuds.
Pg. 20
  1. What are the names of the wives of the Prophet (saaw)?
    1. Khadija, Sawda, Aisha, Hafsa, Zaynab bint Jahsh, Umm Salama, Zaynab bint Khuzayma, Safiyah, Umm Habiba, Maymunah, Juwayriyah   Mariyah
Pg. 44
  1. What are the names of the sons of the Prophet (saaw)?
    1. Ibraheem, Abdullah, Qasim  (all died in their childhood)
Pg. 57
  1. What are the names of the daughters of the Prophet (saaw)?
    1. Fatima, Um Kathoum, Raqia, Zainab
Pg. 52



Thursday, October 20, 2016

Why "Sister" Winnie?

Dear Sisters,

You might have noticed that I try to refer to our members using the prefix sister and that I myself use that prefix constantly.  You might have even wondered why?  So, I thought I would try to explain the reasoning behind this and hope you will share in my fondness for the term “Sister”

Many years ago, a few months after being blessed with the greatest gift in the world, The knowledge and belief in Allah, The Most High, I began a teaching position at the Islamic Elementary School in Mississauga.  At that time, all the female teachers were called “Sister” ( and then their first name).  This practice was done by  the students, teachers and parents.  It was special.  By this small gesture, I felt now part of a huge family, the family of Islam.  This word “ Sister” constantly reminded me of my Islam and my bigger family.  

So when Amanah Sisters was just starting, it was a conscious decision to renew that practice of referring to my fellow female Muslims as “ Sisters”.

Even 29 years on, the students I occasionally see still call me Sister Winnie. It is something that we were all ingrained with.

Tuesday, November 17, 2015

New Muslimah Life Coaching

Presented by: Rebecca Friedman (Sister Safiyyah)


A life coach is someone who helps you reach a goal or make a change in your life.


They support you and hold you accountable to achieving your vision for yourself. Whatever it is that you want in your life, they help you get there.


They can help you to pinpoint the blocks or obstacles that are making you feel “stuck” and help you to move through them. They may also guide you through a life transition, such as finding a new career.


You might call them a “change facilitator” or a “courage catalyst”.


A life coach is not a therapist. They will focus mostly on looking toward your future, rather than dealing primarily with your past.


While they may offer you suggestions, new ideas or action steps, they are not advice-givers.

Instead, they listen to you and ask you the right questions to help you find your path, your truth, and your answers. Then they help you to align your life with who you are and what you want.



New Muslimah Life Coaching aims at helping new Muslimahs deal with everyday challenges, empowering them to make good decisions and lay a firm foundation for islam in their lives.


This project provides reverts a unique chance to work with a coach and talk about their experiences and challenges to help them transition into their new life and move forward to becoming confident muslimahs.


Said your Shahadah or started to practice Islam, but feel isolated or alone?


Need help adjusting to new Muslim life?


Want to talk to someone who understands the reality of your new life?


We can help you:


Create a new Muslim identity while keeping your old identity.


Overcome obstacles in dealing with non-Muslim family members of friends.


Implement the teachings of Allah SWT in your life Make new changes


Offer answers to common questions in a confidential judgement free environment.

“As a New Muslimah I struggled with taking on a new Identity. I often felt unsure about where my life was going and embarrassed to ask for help. I had problems  dealing with non-Muslim family and friends and I often felt overwhelmed with all that I had to learn. These challenges made me look deeper into my own self and find ways to push me to grow as a person. I look forward to sharing my experiences with you. That is the core of New Muslimah life Coaching. Together we can overcome any obstacles in sha’ Allah.”



Friday, October 16, 2015

Thursday, October 15, 2015

Al-Hakam

Presented by: Sister Sara
The Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) said: ‘Indeed, Allah is the Arbitrator (al-Ḥakam) and to Him is the judgment.’ (Abu Dawud)
Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) is al-Ḥakam. The root of this word is the three-letter root ḥ-k-m (م – ك – ح), which also gives rise to His name al-Ḥakeem. The root means ‘to prevent’ or ‘to restrain’ (المنع), and it is linked to preventing oppression; ḥikma (wisdom) also means ‘the prevention of ignorance’ (maqayis al-lugha).
Ḥukm is not only knowledge, but understanding and execution of that knowledge; it can therefore mean ‘decree’ or ‘judgment’. In Arabic, the referee in a sports match is called a ḥakam, and aḥākim is a ruler.
Thus, Allah’s (swt) Name al-Ḥakam means that He is the ultimate arbitrator and judge, Whose rulings no one can overturn, as al-Ghazali points out.
Al-Ḥakam in this world
On Decree
The Prophet ﷺ said in a hadith (narration):
‘The reality of faith is knowing that what has passed you by was not going to befall you; and that what has befallen you was not going to pass you by.’ (Tabarani)
He ﷺ also said:
‘Know that if the whole world were to gather together in order to help you, they would not be able to help you except if Allah had written so. And if the whole world were to gather together in order to harm you, they would not harm you except if Allah had written so. The pens have been lifted, and the pages are dry.’ (Tirmidhi)
One of the basic tenets of our faith is belief in “qadar (predestination), both in its good and in its evil aspects” (hadith reported by Muslim). But what does qadar mean and how do we balance it with planning and action?
Allah has decreed certain things, and those things cannot be overturned. He has also decreed other things which He allows to be changed, as the Prophet ﷺ told us: “Nothing can change the Divine decree except du`a’ (prayer),” (Ahmad). Moreover, he ﷺ also tells us “Du`a’ is beneficial with regard to what has been decreed and what has not been decreed. The du`a’ meets the calamity that has been decreed and wrestles with it, until the Day of Resurrection.” (Tabarani)
The truth is that we do not know Allah’s (swt) decree – those things that cannot be overturned – and we will not be asked about His decree. We will be asked about our responsibilities. Allah (swt) teaches us this through the example of the Prophet ﷺ. The Quraysh tribe was plotting to assassinate the Prophet ﷺ so he planned with `Ali and Abu Bakr radi Allahu `anhumaa (may God be pleased with them both). `Ali (ra) would take the Prophet’s ﷺ place in his bed to buy time, while the Prophet ﷺ escaped with Abu Bakr (ra).
At the same time, the would-be assassins planned too. They all planned to attack the Prophet ﷺ in his bed at the same time and murder him, so that the blame would be shared equally between all the tribes, and no one individual would be responsible. Allah (swt) says of this in the Qur’an:
‘And [remember, O Muhammad], when those who disbelieved plotted against you to restrain you or kill you or evict you [from Makkah]. But they plan, and Allah plans. And Allah is the best of planners.’ (8:30)
In the end, it was Allah’s (swt) plan that won; indeed, it is always His plan that wins: the Prophet ﷺ escaped safely to Medina.
We forget that the point of Islam is submission to Allah. Part of submission is working with the means – because we have been commanded to do so and given certain means – as well as understanding that He ultimately decides what He allows to pass. We make the mistake of seeing planning and relying on Allah as opposites, whereas they are complementary when viewed under the umbrella of submission to Him.
Sometimes, Allah (swt) shows us the larger picture through the everyday and the mundane. We all have days in which things seem to be going according to plan, yet somehow they get messed up. You might leave the house early enough to get to work, then remember that you forgot something important and have to go back. You might then get into your car and find that traffic is terrible, or get on the train and find that there are delays.
Throughout it all, you are annoyed, wondering why this is happening to you—especially since you put effort into being on time—and wondering what you could have done differently. Yet somehow, you find that you make it just in time; or maybe you do end up being late, but your boss is too, so everything is fine. Or perhaps you are late, and you are reprimanded by your boss.
Delays and detours are an inevitable part of life, both literally and metaphorically. Many times, our planning ahead helps us, but there may be times when it does not. Yet Allah (swt) shows you that He will always get you where you need to be, thought it may not be where you want to be at that time. It may not happen how you envisaged it, but there is always a lesson to be learned from the Most Wise. Focus on what you can control, and leave what you cannot.
We should learn from these daily lessons and have trust in the Most High. What is best will come, whenever He wills. Allah (swt) tells us:
‘…Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent.’ (65:3)
On His rulings
According to Sheikh Abdulrazzaq al-Badr, Allah’s (swt) rulings and decrees are part of is Hisḥukm. Allah says:
‘Then is it the judgment of [the time of] ignorance they desire? But who is better than Allah in judgment for a people who are certain [in faith].’ (5:50)
Allah (swt) has put upon us certain responsibilities. We are commanded to commit to the pillars of Islam: testimony of faith, prayer, fasting in Ramadan, zakat (almsgiving) and Hajj (pilgrimage). We must strive to perfect our character, work for justice and remove oppression; we are commanded to invite people to the beauty of our religion and to seek knowledge—all in submission to the Most High.
Part of believing in Allah as al-Ḥakam is to know that these rulings came from the Most Wise and the Most Just, committing to them to the best of our ability even when we do not understand them or when we feel down. It is easy to say ‘I am not feeling my prayer’ and succumb to the urge not to pray; it is easy to think, ‘I am in love with someone, but we can’t get married right now. Why should we deny ourselves things when are in love?’; yet we must strive to uphold His rulings.
Of course, this does not mean that we do not seek to understand Allah’s (swt) rulings, nor am I speaking about matters in which there is a considerable difference of opinion and there is more than one possible ruling to take. Rather, I am speaking here about the established responsibilities Allah (swt) has decreed upon us.
Al-Ḥakam on the Day of Judgment
‘Say, “O Allah, Creator of the heavens and the earth, Knower of the unseen and the witnessed, You will judge (taḥkumu) between your servants concerning that over which they used to differ”.’ (39:46)
We all know that we will return to Allah (swt). On the Day of Judgment, He will be the ultimate Judge. He will judge between us regarding that upon which we used to differ, and everyone will receive their just reward. Knowing this should inspire hope and vigilance – hope, because we know that Allah (swt) will rule according to wisdom, justice and mercy; and vigilance, because we will be asked about what we used to do, and so we should ensure that we take care of our responsibilities and avoid oppressing others. Allah (swt) reminds us:
‘And Allah decides; there is no adjuster of His decision.’ (13:41)
Connecting to al-Ḥakam  
  • Lessons, not regrets
The Prophet ﷺ reminded us:
‘If something befalls you, do not say, ‘If only I had done otherwise,’ but rather say, ‘Allah’s Will be done,’ for ‘if only’ opens the door to Satan’s mischief.’ (Bukhari)
Our duty is to work to the best of our ability, utilizing the means around us and ultimately having trust in Allah (swt). Sometimes this will require us to pursue something and never give up, and sometimes it will require us to take a different route. How do we know which is the ‘correct’ way?
Sometimes there is no way to know, and there is no point in beating yourself up about what you assume ‘could have’ or ‘would have’ been. Allah (swt) will not ask us about the unseen world, which only He knows. We judge things according to our limited ability, do the best we can, and ultimately leave the outcome to Allah (swt).
And sometimes Allah addresses this mentality in the things that happen to us. I recently signed up for something that I thought would be beneficial. When I weighed the pros and cons, what pushed me to sign up was the thought: ‘What if I regret not doing it?’ The experience turned out to be terrible. However, had I not signed up, I would have assumed that I would have benefited, and regretted my decision!
This does not mean that our actions have no effect. Allah (swt) wills that that our actions, or inactions, have a certain consequence. So, deciding not to study for an exam because ‘Allah’s decree will pass’ will most likely cause us to fail. Allah (swt) has created certain laws in this universe which link causes and effects.
If we find that we were in fact lacking in effort or lacking in our actions, we must take those lessons and apply them to future experiences, but not regret the past. Knowing that Allah (swt) isal-Ḥakam is to know that His decree cannot be overturned.
  • How should you judge?
‘Indeed, Allah commands you to render trusts to whom they are due and when you judge between people to judge with justice. Excellent is that which Allah instructs you. Indeed, Allah is ever Hearing and Seeing.’ (4:58)
In a famous story, when the great companion and nephew of the Prophet ﷺ, `Ali ibn Abi Talib, was the Caliph, a non-Muslim man stole `Ali’s armor. `Ali took the matter to Shurayh, the judge. As the non-Muslim man had the armor in his hands, the burden of proof was on `Ali; Shurayh asked `Ali if he had a witness to the theft, but `Ali only had his son al-Husayn. Shurayh therefore ruled in favor of the non-Muslim, because a son cannot be a witness in favor of his father.
The Prophet ﷺ also taught us that our state matters when we are making a judgment: ‘A judge should not judge between two persons while he is in an angry mood,’ (Bukhari). He reminds us that emotions influence our judgments.
Finally, we should ask: how would we like Allah (swt) to judge us? The mercy and understanding that we hope from Allah (swt) is what we should give to other people when making a judgment.